Hi,
what ever you JOINTLY decide is right.
I believe Mr. Woody must understand - not be made to understand - but must surely understand is that he has had one blow after another - his decisions MAY be from being punch drunk!
You have the dillema of seeking to make the right decision - I will hang on to my bladder for as long as possible and I'm not sure even then I would see bags and so on as a viable life style AT THE MOMENT
You still haven't shared the CTScan results so what do they tell you in the decision making balance? How is the clot doing? Has the bleed stopped? etc.
Do they believe the C is threatening beyond the bladder? Do they believe they can contain the problem?
It would be good if they could contain the problem and solve the other problems putting Mr. Woody back on his feet and better equipped to take a long hard look at life AND THEN make the decision that WILL effect the whole of the rest of both your lives.
Good luck.
regards,
Greg L-W.