Jim,
Glad you found the site!
Sounds like a good decision given the family history. Check out the thread on "To neo or not to neo" here on the forum. That is where I asked some questions about the various types of diversions and got some great answers from people here.
I wound up with the neobladder hooked up to the old plumbing which has been working fine for me. Got mine October 9, 2008 and I'm very happy with it.
Good luck with the surgery and feel free to ask anything on this site. Lots of us here who can share experiences and answer questions.
Mike
Age 54
10/31/06 dx CIS (TisG3) non-invasive (at 47)
9/19/08 TURB/TUIP dx Invasive T2G3
10/8/08 RC neobladder(at 49)
2/15/13 T4G3N3M1 distant metastases(at 53)
9/2013 finished chemo -cancer free again
1/2014 ct scan results....distant mets
2/2014 ct result...spread to liver, kidneys, and lymph...