Well I read what you said to him, and I think each time he hears that it's going to spread, if it hasn't already, really hits home. My mom's calling the VA today to even see if they will run test to see if it has spread over the past 6 months and if he would even be a candidate for the neobladder anyomre, it might not even be an option. But I'm not giving up. Last time I bugged him about it for about 5 weeks and then I just stopped, I can't stop this time, because I know that it's my last chance to save him. And I know that he knows it is his only choice, so now he just has to make the right decision... so we'll see...
but Mike, can you email your phone number? If I can get my dad to call you, you can maybe let him know what the surgery is like, the recovery process, etc. I feel that maybe talking to a survivor will help. I'm going to try and have him call Cynthia hopefully this week, but I think it might help him talk to a man about the situation.
If you don't mind, my email is This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.