What can I say - that is close to being the supergrandeloquenceofexcessive shittyness!
The good news is you are doing a hell of a lot better than the Turkey so take a day off and have a Thanksgiving to remember - shall I stop being crass as I'm sure you might just both remember this Thanksgiving with crystal clarity.
Wrap up warm - go find a safe lonesome area with a great view and decide if you are going to shout with rage, scweam & scweam with pain of weep with self indulgence - you are allowed. But NEVER EVER EVER let your determination to face each challenge and win crack in public.
When you are feeling very lonely and picked on know that if you look east I'm holding both your hands to give you hope, strength and a happy future.
Go for the second opinion, ensure you know EXACTLY what you face - you can do it - but decide what that big strong energetic man in his prime can deal with - you have the hard job because we men are really little boys when the sh*t hits the fan.
I know you can be the rock he needs.
That way you will both get through this rough patch in your lives and look back stronger together than ever before - tell YMIL to get her back bone in order her son needs her strength not her tears and fears - AND SO DO YOU.
Don't forget when you have both beaten this Mr. Woodie gets the last laugh - when your sitting in the car with you legs crossed jiggling on the freeway in a tailback - he can just aim and turn a tap on.
Remember 'Life of Brian'?
Always look on the bright side 'cos cruxifictions involve so much hanging around!
Concentrate and feel how warm both hands are
With love to you both ENJOY Thanksgiving [that is an order!]
Greg