Thanks for all the comments, they are all very helpful and its good to hear the different prespectives on when support is needed most - Just shows how everyone is different!! I've decided to take both dates off anyway to make sure I cover all angles
This website is just so helpful, thank you all so much x
When I have had my 2 TURBS, my sister would not leave my side for a minute. Being unmarried, this meant a lot to me. She would not even leave to go to her grandson's basketball game. I felt very important.
Having been through this myself, my vote would be that I would need you at the time of the TURB. It is wonderful when you know that someone is waiting for you to come out of the OR and that person is anxious to talk to the Doctor.
I actually got my bad news pathology results over the telephone..
Age - 55
T1 G3 - Tumor free 2 yrs 3 months
Dx January 2006
Thanks for your information, I am currently working 4 hours away from home so I was thinking that I'd take a few days off when I'd be needed most and spend more time there rather than fly in and out for a day here and there, maybe you are right though and both days will give me the oppertunity to ask docs all the questions I need etc!! I go home every weekend anyway so it'd be no problem to drive back I was just trying to use the days I get off as best as possible!
Hi, Newbie08 -- When I had my first turbt, the doctor came out and told my husband and son "what it looked like" (he told me, too, after I woke up). In my case, there was an initial pathology report and a second one (at another facility and more tests were done on the sample). So it is hard to choose one day in advance. As a person who probably has at least workaholic tendencies, I can understand wanting to
limit days off to the most important one in the normal flow of life events, but I
wonder if this situation might not be an exception -- in the context of your whole life, do you think you could possibly take both days? Of course, there's always the risk that afterwards you'll feel it wasn't worth the cost, disruption, etc. If it is one or the other, as long as at least one family member is there for both, I guess it is your choice. Will the stress of "operating day" be when more support is needed or will it be when your family tires to "hear" and understand the sometimes confusing language of the pathology report?