Hi,
We have some info that was contributed by women with neobladders who suffer from hypercontinence with a "trick" they've discovered that helps with voiding:
blcwebcafe.org/neohyperc.asp
And info on women and neobladders:
blcwebcafe.org/neowomen.asp
I've heard that a neo shouldn't be too stretched out, 450 cc's or so is good. Also, it can take up to a year for all the new plumbing to settle and for things to become normal. However, self-cathing can be a given for female neobladder recipients.
If you don't get enough input here, you might want to post under 'invasive blc', and/or consider our email group, which is chock full of women with neobladders:
blcwebcafe.org/listinfo.asp
and funny enough the populations of the list and the forum do not overlap.
Wishing you well,
Wendy